As I have splashed over all of my social media sites (Twitter, Instagram and Facebook). Last week I was lucky enough to let the Daily Mail into my house to discuss my struggles with Post-Natal Depression.
If you haven’t checked the article out, here it is.
Now journalists and papers have a reputation of spinning the truth, so I must admit I was apprehensive about sharing such a sensitive subject for the whole world to see, however the way it was handled was brilliant.
Everyone who reads anything about anything will probably be aware that Adele recently appeared in the Vanity Fair magazine. Talking about her tour, Trump, her upbringing and parenthood; she admits to not wanting anymore children
“… all my friends and I felt pressurized into having kids, because that’s what adults do. I love my son more than anything, but on a daily basis, if I have a minute or two, I wish I could do whatever the fuck I wanted, whenever I want. Every single day I feel like that.”
“… I’m too scared. I had really bad postpartum depression after I had my son, and it frightened me.”
“…without realizing it, I was gravitating towards pregnant women and other women with children, because I found they’re a bit more patient. You’ll be talking to someone, but you’re not really listening, because you’re so fuckin’ tired.”
“…I knew I could just sit there and chat absolute mush with my friends who had children, and we wouldn’t judge each other.”
“… I was obsessed with my child. I felt very inadequate; I felt like I’d made the worst decision of my life.”
This obviously sent most papers and magazines into overdrive. My twitter feed was full of people searching for women who had suffered with PND so it seemed a no brainier to do the article. I wanted to let women know they are not alone. I wanted to let mothers feel united and that if they choose to only have one child, or ten, or a hundred then its ok.
It all started with a phone call. Louisa phoned me and briefly took details to submit a synopsis. A few days later after too’ing and fro’ing via email Antonia called me. We had a lengthy discussion about my birthing story, my dreams of what I saw my family to be. What my upbringing was and more importantly my current mental health.
Following our conversation, Antonia told me the next day a photographer and a hair and make-up person was going to arrive at my house with a dress and pair of shoes provided. Any new mum knows how amazing this sounds! I was on top of the world at the idea of getting made up and pampered!
The next day Caroline turned up first. My hair was curled slightly and the makeup was natural. Caroline brought a massive suitcase and unloaded a mass of make-up goodies full of MAC, NARS, Chanel just to name a few. I was given a smokey eye look with false lashes to boot. This is when Juliette turned up, she brought a lot of lights, a backdrop and her camera. Ben was fascinated by this all he loved the lights, the hustle and bustle and more importantly I think he had a soft spot for Caroline!
Once I was in the dress they had provided and my hair and make-up was done, it was lights, camera, action! Lots of snapping, lots of posing both smiling and serious, with Ben and without him. Then it was time for them to leave. I think the whole thing took about two hours and the actual photoshoot was only about 20 minutes max??
Overall, I had a very positive experience with everyone I came into contact with. I really feel like doing this article has made a difference, even if it is to a few people; I have still helped.
I also want to say thank you to everyone that has messaged me expressing gratitude for speaking up, asking about my parenting experience with PND and to ask if I was ok. It means the world to me and if I had to stop blogging tomorrow, the response from this article is enough for me!